Musa ukunika ikati yakho xa iphakanyiswe ngesiqingatha

1.Iikati zineemvakalelo, nazo. Ukubapha kufana nokumophula intliziyo.

Iikati azikho izilwanyana ezincinci ngaphandle kweemvakalelo, ziya kuphuhlisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu ngathi. Xa ubondla, udlala kwaye ubafuyile yonke imihla, baya kukuphatha njengosapho lwabo olusondeleyo. Ukuba baphiwe ngequbuliso, baya kuziva bedidekile yaye bebuhlungu, kanye njengokuba besiya kwenjenjalo xa sifelwe ngumntu esimthandayo. Iikati zinokuba nengxaki yokungathandi ukutya, ukutyhafa kunye neengxaki zokuziphatha njengoko zikhumbula abanini bazo. Ngoko ke, indoda endala yasilumkisa ukuba singanikezeli ngokulula, eqinisweni, ngenxa yentlonipho kunye nokukhusela iimvakalelo zekati.

2.Kuthatha ixesha ukuba ikati iqhelane nendawo entsha, kwaye ukunika umntu kude kuyafana “nokujula”

Iikati zizilwanyana ezikummandla kakhulu kwaye zifuna ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nendawo yazo entsha. Ukuba bathunyelwe ukusuka kwikhaya labo eliqhelekileyo ukuya kwindawo engaqhelekanga, baya kuziva bengakhululekanga kwaye besoyika. Iikati kufuneka zibuyisele ukhuseleko lwazo kwaye ziqhelane neendawo ezintsha, abanini abatsha kunye neendlela ezintsha, inkqubo enokuthi ibe noxinzelelo. Ukongeza, iikati zinokujongana nemingcipheko yempilo njengoko zilungelelanisa indawo yazo entsha, njengokugula ngenxa yoxinzelelo. Ngoko ke, indoda endala yasikhumbuza ukuba singaniki abantu, kodwa siqwalasela impilo yomzimba kunye nengqondo yekati.

3.Kukho ukuqondana okufihlakeleyo phakathi kwekati kunye nomnini, ukunika umntu kufana "nokunikezela"

Xa uchitha ixesha kunye nekati yakho, uhlakulela ubuhlobo obukhethekileyo. Ukujonga enye, intshukumo enye, unokuyiqonda intsingiselo yomnye. Ngokomzekelo, ufika nje ekhaya, ikati iza ibaleka izokubulisa. Nje ukuba uqalise ukuhlala phantsi, ikati itsibela ethangeni lakho ukuze ikubambe. Olu hlobo lokuqonda luhlakulelwa ixesha elide kunye, kwaye luxabiseke kakhulu. Ukuba unika ikati yakho, le bhondi iya kuphulwa, ikati iya kufuneka iphinde iphinde iphinde idibanise nomnini omtsha, kwaye uya kulahlekelwa ngulo bhondi onqabileyo. Ixhego lasilumkisa ukuba singazinikeli, enyanisweni, lifuna sikuxabise ukuqondana okufihlakeleyo phakathi kwethu nekati.

4.Iikati zinexesha elide lokuphila, ngoko ke ukuzinikezela kuya kuba 'kukungakhathali'

Ubomi bekati buphakathi kweminyaka eli-12 ukuya kweli-15, yaye ezinye zinokuphila ukuya kutsho kwiminyaka engama-20. Oku kuthetha ukuba iikati zihlala nathi ixesha elide. Ukuba sinikela ngeekati zethu ngenxa yobunzima bexeshana okanye unxunguphalo, ngoko ke asenzi umsebenzi wethu njengabanini. Iikati zimsulwa, azikhethanga ukuza kweli khaya, kodwa kufuneka zithathe umngcipheko wokuphiwa. Ixhego liyasikhumbuza ukuba singaziniki, sinethemba lokuba singaba noxanduva kwiikati kwaye sihambe nazo ebomini.